{"id":1359,"date":"2016-02-05T00:00:00","date_gmt":"2016-02-05T00:00:00","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/safehorizon.dev\/?p=1359"},"modified":"2017-10-23T19:52:57","modified_gmt":"2017-10-23T19:52:57","slug":"mimis-story-overcoming-verbal-and-mental-abuse","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.safehorizon.org\/stories\/mimis-story-overcoming-verbal-and-mental-abuse\/","title":{"rendered":"Mimi&#8217;s Story: Overcoming Verbal and Mental Abuse"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/7lDgIAxDaHA\" width=\"734\" height=\"413\" frameborder=\"0\"><\/iframe><\/p>\n<h2>How Mimi was affected by Domestic Violence<\/h2>\n<p>Originally from Belize, Mimi faced domestic violence in her native land at the hands of her partner. After moving to New York City, she thought she had left domestic violence behind. But, her partner in New York City also became verbally and physically abusive. The abuse escalated when he attacked her in front of her two young children. But Mimi\u2019s daughter intervened by jumping on his back.<\/p>\n<p>After the incident Mimi decided to call the authorities and they referred her to Safe Horizon\u2019s Community Program in Brooklyn. Through her work with the Community Program, Mimi could find a way to break free from the abuse and begin to heal.<\/p>\n<h2>How Safe Horizon Helped Mimi Overcome Verbal and Mental Abuse<\/h2>\n<p>Safe Horizon\u2019s <a href=\"https:\/\/www.safehorizon.org\/community-programs\/\">Community Programs<\/a> serve all five boroughs of New York City. Services for victims of domestic violence and other crimes include3:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Crisis Intervention and Case Management<\/li>\n<li>Practical\/Emergency Assistance<\/li>\n<li>Information, Referrals and Advocacy<\/li>\n<li>Individual Counseling and access to Support Groups<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-1695\" src=\"https:\/\/www.safehorizon.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/07\/Kimmi-Herring-director-of-Safe-Horizon-Manhattan-Bronx-Community-Program.png\" alt=\"Kimmi-Herring-director-of-Safe-Horizon-Manhattan-Bronx-Community-Program\" width=\"600\" height=\"551\" srcset=\"https:\/\/safehorizon.wpenginepowered.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/07\/Kimmi-Herring-director-of-Safe-Horizon-Manhattan-Bronx-Community-Program.png 600w, https:\/\/safehorizon.wpenginepowered.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/07\/Kimmi-Herring-director-of-Safe-Horizon-Manhattan-Bronx-Community-Program-300x276.png 300w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 600px) 100vw, 600px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>At the Brooklyn Community Program Mimi met someone who would change her life forever; the Director of the Brooklyn Community Program, Kimmi Herring.<\/p>\n<p>Kimmi helped Mimi understand that the violence and abuse she experienced in her relationships was not her fault. She provided support and counseling so Mimi could overcome the many harmful effects of abuse that lingered. \u201c<em>There was more pain from the emotional, mental abuse than the physical, <\/em>\u201d Mimi explains. \u201c<em>Bruises heal, but the verbal and mental abuse is what I needed to break free from.<\/em>\u00a0<em>Kimmi helped me with that tremendously.<\/em>\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Kimmi introduced Mimi to other Safe Horizon resources that could help her. Because Mimi was legally married to her partner in New York City, Kimmi connected Mimi to our <a href=\"https:\/\/www.safehorizon.org\/our-services\/legal-and-court-help\/domestic-violence-law-project\/\">Domestic Violence Law Project<\/a> (DVLP). The legal staff at DVLP helped Mimi obtain an Order of Protection to address her safety concerns. They also helped represent Mimi throughout the divorce process in court.<\/p>\n<p>Mimi was living in the United States on a temporary travel visa, so Kimmi connected her to our <a href=\"https:\/\/www.safehorizon.org\/our-services\/legal-and-court-help\/immigration-law-project\/\">Immigration Law Project<\/a> (ILP), which helps undocumented victims of crime and abuse and their families with their legal status.\u00a0ILP helped Mimi and her daughter file for and obtain their green cards.<\/p>\n<p>With Safe Horizon\u2019s help, Mimi continues to work towards overcoming the abuse she suffered. Mimi\u2019s renewed confidence in herself helped motivate her to go to school to become a Certified Nursing Assistant (CNA) and continue to pursue a career as a Medical Assistant. Mimi is still in contact with Kimmi for ongoing support and she is working towards becoming a member of our Speakers Bureau so she can tell her story and advocate for other survivors.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter wp-image-1360 size-full\" src=\"https:\/\/www.safehorizon.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/06\/1443125851_Mimi-PTNII.jpg\" alt=\"Mimi's Story: Overcoming Verbal and Mental Abuse\" width=\"733\" height=\"393\" srcset=\"https:\/\/safehorizon.wpenginepowered.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/06\/1443125851_Mimi-PTNII.jpg 733w, https:\/\/safehorizon.wpenginepowered.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/06\/1443125851_Mimi-PTNII-300x161.jpg 300w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 733px) 100vw, 733px\" \/><\/p>\n<h2>How You Can Help People like Mimi<\/h2>\n<p>You can help make a difference by participating in our #PutTheNailinIt campaign to end domestic violence. All it takes are three simple steps:<\/p>\n<ol>\n<li>Donate to help support Safe Horizon\u2019s services for victims of\u00a0domestic violence<\/li>\n<li>Paint your left ring fingernail purple, the color of the anti-domestic violence movement<\/li>\n<li>Share a photo of the purple nail on social media using hashtag #PutTheNailinIt<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<p>People from all over the world are participating in #PutTheNailinIt and donating to help us provide domestic violence victims with the support they need including: shelter, counseling, hotline services, free legal advice, representation and other critical services.<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"http:\/\/putthenailinit.com\/index.php\/donate\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><strong>Will you join us by making your donation and painting your left fingernail purple today?<\/strong><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p><em>&#8220;There was more pain from the emotional and mental abuse than the physical. 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While physical abuse is frequently recognized, <strong>emotional abuse is also common but often less talked about<\/strong>. Emotional abuse can be used along with other tactics to exert power and control over survivors. According to a <a href=\"https:\/\/www.thehotline.org\/resources\/what-is-emotional-abuse\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">study<\/a> from The National Domestic Violence Hotline, based on their 2020 service data, 95% of contacts stated they were experiencing emotional abuse.<\/p>\n<!-- \/wp:paragraph -->\n\n<!-- wp:paragraph -->\n<p><strong>To understand emotional abuse, we must first understand the difference between emotional abuse and conflict. <\/strong><\/p>\n<!-- \/wp:paragraph -->\n\n<!-- wp:heading -->\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-emotional-abuse-vs-conflict\">Emotional Abuse vs. Conflict<\/h2>\n<!-- \/wp:heading -->\n\n<!-- wp:paragraph -->\n<p>To understand emotional abuse, we need to understand the difference between emotional abuse and normal conflict.<\/p>\n<!-- \/wp:paragraph -->\n\n<!-- wp:paragraph -->\n<p><strong>Conflict<\/strong> is a normal part of any relationship and is a healthy way for two people to express emotions, identify an issue, and have a chance to talk through whatever issue is bothering them.<\/p>\n<!-- \/wp:paragraph -->\n\n<!-- wp:paragraph -->\n<p><strong>Emotional abuse<\/strong> involves nonphysical behavior that belittles another person and can include insults, put down, verbal threats or other tactics that make the victim feel threatened, inferior, ashamed or degraded.<\/p>\n<!-- \/wp:paragraph -->\n\n<!-- wp:heading -->\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-when-is-conflict-actually-not-conflict-but-something-more-when-is-it-emotional-abuse\">When is Conflict Actually Not Conflict, but Something More? When is it Emotional Abuse?<\/h2>\n<!-- \/wp:heading -->\n\n<!-- wp:paragraph -->\n<p>Have you ever experienced the feeling of having a knot in your stomach when dealing with someone? Did something in your relationship just feel off? When someone feels scared, confused or like nothing they do will ever be right, <strong>this may be a sign of emotional abuse.<\/strong><\/p>\n<!-- \/wp:paragraph -->\n\n<!-- wp:heading -->\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-what-is-emotional-abuse\">What is Emotional Abuse?<\/h2>\n<!-- \/wp:heading -->\n\n<!-- wp:paragraph -->\n<p>Emotional abuse is behavior from another person that makes you consistently feel badly about yourself, like you just can\u2019t be you. Emotional abuse is not limited to romantic partner, but can be perpetrated by a family member, friend or coworker. Emotional abuse can make you feel guilty, ashamed, silenced, violated, uncomfortable or many other things. Emotional abuse can be harder to identify since no one else can necessarily \u201csee\u201d its effects like they can a bruise, cut, or a scar.<\/p>\n<!-- \/wp:paragraph -->\n\n<!-- wp:paragraph -->\n<p>Abusive behavior is often motivated by a desire for power and control but the reasons why that need exists varies. Maybe the person who hurt you didn\u2019t do so on purpose; maybe they did. While it\u2019s helpful to understand the \u201cwhy\u201d, the reasons are not an excuse for harmful behavior- but they can make everything more confusing. Emotional abuse is complicated and disorienting. Below are 5 common signs of emotional abuse:<\/p>\n<!-- \/wp:paragraph -->\n\n<!-- wp:heading -->\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-5-signs-of-emotional-abuse\">5 Signs of Emotional Abuse<\/h2>\n<!-- \/wp:heading -->\n\n<!-- wp:list {\"ordered\":true} -->\n<ol class=\"wp-block-list\"><!-- wp:list-item -->\n<li><strong>They are Hyper-Critical or Judgmental Towards You<\/strong><!-- wp:list -->\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><!-- wp:list-item -->\n<li>It is human nature to critique or judge, but in emotionally abusive situations, someone takes it to the next level. This can look like someone is:<!-- wp:list -->\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><!-- wp:list-item -->\n<li>Putting you down in front of others<\/li>\n<!-- \/wp:list-item -->\n\n<!-- wp:list-item -->\n<li>Humiliating or embarrassing you<\/li>\n<!-- \/wp:list-item -->\n\n<!-- wp:list-item -->\n<li>Using sarcasm or \u201cteasing\u201d or \u201cjokes\u201d to make you feel badly about yourself<\/li>\n<!-- \/wp:list-item -->\n\n<!-- wp:list-item -->\n<li>Having an opinion about a lot of what you say, do, or think<\/li>\n<!-- \/wp:list-item -->\n\n<!-- wp:list-item -->\n<li>Upset if\/when you don\u2019t agree (e.g., how you dress, how you spend your money, who you spend time with, what you are interested in)<\/li>\n<!-- \/wp:list-item --><\/ul>\n<!-- \/wp:list --><\/li>\n<!-- \/wp:list-item --><\/ul>\n<!-- \/wp:list --><\/li>\n<!-- \/wp:list-item -->\n\n<!-- wp:list-item -->\n<li><strong>They Ignore Boundaries or Invade Your Privacy<\/strong><!-- wp:list -->\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><!-- wp:list-item -->\n<li>We all have the right to our own space. Sometimes it can be tricky to distinguish between the rush and thrill of any new relationship or connection and a violation of your space because you may feel that you want to spend all of your time with this awesome person. This can look like your partner:<!-- wp:list -->\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><!-- wp:list-item -->\n<li>Wants to move a relationship faster than you are comfortable with either emotionally or physically (e.g. saying \u201cI love you\u201d very quickly and pressuring you to do the same, pushing you to engage in sexual activities, pushing you to move in together)<\/li>\n<!-- \/wp:list-item -->\n\n<!-- wp:list-item -->\n<li>Checks your texts messages, email or social media accounts without your permission<\/li>\n<!-- \/wp:list-item --><\/ul>\n<!-- \/wp:list --><\/li>\n<!-- \/wp:list-item --><\/ul>\n<!-- \/wp:list --><\/li>\n<!-- \/wp:list-item -->\n\n<!-- wp:list-item -->\n<li><strong>They are Possessive and\/or Controlling<\/strong><!-- wp:list -->\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><!-- wp:list-item -->\n<li>The abuser may try to restrict your behavior through unreasonable jealousy such as:<!-- wp:list -->\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><!-- wp:list-item -->\n<li>Monitoring your actions<\/li>\n<!-- \/wp:list-item -->\n\n<!-- wp:list-item -->\n<li>Constantly calling or texting when you are not around<\/li>\n<!-- \/wp:list-item -->\n\n<!-- wp:list-item -->\n<li>Getting upset when you want to spend time by yourself or with family or friends alone<\/li>\n<!-- \/wp:list-item -->\n\n<!-- wp:list-item -->\n<li>Isolating you from other people in your life and\/or activities you enjoy or work<\/li>\n<!-- \/wp:list-item -->\n\n<!-- wp:list-item -->\n<li>Demanding access to your phone, email, or social media accounts<\/li>\n<!-- \/wp:list-item --><\/ul>\n<!-- \/wp:list --><\/li>\n<!-- \/wp:list-item --><\/ul>\n<!-- \/wp:list --><\/li>\n<!-- \/wp:list-item -->\n\n<!-- wp:list-item -->\n<li><strong>They are Manipulative<\/strong><!-- wp:list -->\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><!-- wp:list-item -->\n<li>An emotionally abusive person may try many things to get you to do what they want or feel badly, such as:<!-- wp:list -->\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><!-- wp:list-item -->\n<li>Withdrawing affection when you\u2019ve done something \u201cwrong\u201d<\/li>\n<!-- \/wp:list-item -->\n\n<!-- wp:list-item -->\n<li>Ignoring or excluding you<\/li>\n<!-- \/wp:list-item -->\n\n<!-- wp:list-item -->\n<li>Guilt trips<\/li>\n<!-- \/wp:list-item -->\n\n<!-- wp:list-item -->\n<li>Making you doubt yourself<\/li>\n<!-- \/wp:list-item -->\n\n<!-- wp:list-item -->\n<li>Denying something you know is true<\/li>\n<!-- \/wp:list-item --><\/ul>\n<!-- \/wp:list --><\/li>\n<!-- \/wp:list-item --><\/ul>\n<!-- \/wp:list --><\/li>\n<!-- \/wp:list-item -->\n\n<!-- wp:list-item -->\n<li><strong>They Often Dismiss You and Your Feelings<\/strong><!-- wp:list -->\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><!-- wp:list-item -->\n<li>The abuser might try to play down your emotions or feelings by:<!-- wp:list -->\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><!-- wp:list-item -->\n<li>Saying you are too sensitive or calling you crazy<\/li>\n<!-- \/wp:list-item -->\n\n<!-- wp:list-item -->\n<li>Making fun of your achievements or hopes and dreams<\/li>\n<!-- \/wp:list-item --><\/ul>\n<!-- \/wp:list --><\/li>\n<!-- \/wp:list-item -->\n\n<!-- wp:list-item -->\n<li>Refusing to talk about or take responsibility for their actions<\/li>\n<!-- \/wp:list-item -->\n\n<!-- wp:list-item -->\n<li>Blaming you or someone else for their actions (it\u2019s never their fault)<\/li>\n<!-- \/wp:list-item -->\n\n<!-- wp:list-item -->\n<li>Being indifferent to your feelings<\/li>\n<!-- \/wp:list-item --><\/ul>\n<!-- \/wp:list --><\/li>\n<!-- \/wp:list-item --><\/ol>\n<!-- \/wp:list -->\n\n<!-- wp:heading -->\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-help-and-resources-for-emotional-abuse-survivors\">Help and Resources for Emotional Abuse Survivors<\/h2>\n<!-- \/wp:heading -->\n\n<!-- wp:list -->\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><!-- wp:list-item -->\n<li>If you suspect that a family member or friend is in an unhealthy relationship and want to do something, read this guide on <a href=\"https:\/\/www.safehorizon.org\/programs\/supporting-someone-emotionally-abusive-relationship\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">how to support someone in an emotionally abusive relationship.<\/a><\/li>\n<!-- \/wp:list-item -->\n\n<!-- wp:list-item -->\n<li>For more emotional abuse resources, <a href=\"https:\/\/www.safehorizon.org\/safe-horizon-in-the-news\/emotional-abuse-resources\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">click here<\/a>.<\/li>\n<!-- \/wp:list-item -->\n\n<!-- wp:list-item -->\n<li>If you or someone you know needs help, <a href=\"https:\/\/www.safehorizon.org\/hotlines\/\">visit our Hotline page<\/a>.<\/li>\n<!-- \/wp:list-item -->\n\n<!-- wp:list-item -->\n<li>If you need resources outside of New York, contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline:&nbsp;<a href=\"tel:+18007997233\">1-800-799-7233<\/a><\/li>\n<!-- \/wp:list-item --><\/ul>\n<!-- \/wp:list -->","post_title":"5 Signs of Emotional Abuse","post_excerpt":"What is emotional abuse? 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It spans age,  sexual orientation,  religion and gender,  and affects people of all socioeconomic backgrounds and education levels. Safe Horizon launched the #PutTheNailinIt campaign to spark a conversation around domestic violence by asking supporters to take the vow to end domestic violence in three simple steps:\r\n1) <strong>Donate<\/strong> to help end domestic violence\r\n2) <strong>Paint<\/strong> your left ring fingernail purple,  the color of the anti-domestic violence movement\r\n3) <strong>Share<\/strong> a photo of your painted fingernail on social media with the hashtag #PutTheNailinIt\r\n\r\n<strong>Why is this such an important issue?<\/strong>\r\n\r\n60 percent of Americans say they know a victim of sexual assault or domestic violence and 57 percent have never actually discussed either issue with their friends (AVON,  2013). 73 percent of U.S. parents say they never had a conversation about domestic violence or sexual assault with their children (AVON,  2013).\r\n\r\nPeople from all around the world have already participated in this campaign by donating and painting their fingernail purple.\u00a0 Celebrities including Kyra Sedgwick,  Dave Navarro,  Tamron Hall and Alan Cumming have lent their voice.\u00a0 This campaign is focused on moving away from the bruised face and black eye,  and towards the safety,  hope and confidence victims can achieve when domestic violence can be talked about more openly.\r\n\r\n<strong>Will you join the campaign?<\/strong>\r\n\r\nVisit <a href=\"http:\/\/www.PutTheNailinIt.org\" target=\"_blank\">www.PutTheNailinIt.org<\/a> to help end domestic violence.","post_title":"Donate to #PutTheNailinIt","post_excerpt":"Learn about #PutTheNailinIt,  Safe Horizon\u2019s campaign to end domestic violence for good.","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"putthenailinit","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2025-06-10 13:58:06","post_modified_gmt":"2025-06-10 17:58:06","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"http:\/\/safehorizon.wpengine.com\/?p=2354","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}]},"yoast_head":"<!-- This site is optimized with the Yoast SEO Premium plugin v24.5 (Yoast SEO v26.3) - https:\/\/yoast.com\/wordpress\/plugins\/seo\/ -->\n<title>Mimi&#039;s Story: Overcoming Verbal and Mental Abuse | Safe Horizon<\/title>\n<meta name=\"description\" content=\"&quot;There was more pain from the emotional and mental abuse than the physical. 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